Create Your Heart Out, Then Let Destiny Decide


When I make something (whether I’m writing, sewing, knitting, or drawing), it’s easy to get caught up in what others will think. I see the flaws — the awkward wording,  the mismatched points, the uneven decreases, the distorted proportions — and assume everyone else will see the same things and hate the finished product because of them. But that’s not how it works.

I just finished a quilt that is simple, about as basic as my quilting can get. When I gave it to my friend as a gift,  I was embarrassed, sure she would think it was boring and plain. To my astonishment, she adores it. She loves the colors and is so happy to have this hand-made gift. She sees it with different eyes, with a different heart.

Square Dance, pieced and machine-quilted by Kit Dunsmore
Square Dance, pieced and machine-quilted by Kit Dunsmore

While I’m pleasantly surprised by her response, the most important thing about this is the reminder that I do not decide the value of my work. I must simply make the things I am compelled to make and send them out into the world. After that, destiny decides.


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Kit Dunsmore

Kit Dunsmore has believed in the magic underlying the muggle world since she was a child searching for the Shetland pony pooka she was sure was hiding in her back yard. She learned early on that books were magic doors into other worlds, and that she could revisit a beloved character or place by opening the right book. As she grew, she decided she wanted to make magic with words, too. Today Kit writes about things she loves: poodles and dragons, witches and artists, quirky underdogs and loyal friends. Whether her setting is 6th-century England, the imaginary Twelve Kingdoms, or an art-obsessed version of modern America, magic always finds its way into her story. She enjoys turning fairy tales inside out and watching characters sacrifice everything to reach their goal, but she also believes in happy endings. When she isn't writing, Kit experiences magic by making things with her hands. Over the years, she's made quilts, fabric sculptures, collages, sweaters, and blank books. Her newest interest is learning how to spin her own yarn, a skill guaranteed to strengthen one of her many delusions: that she is a self-sufficient pioneer woman. She also thinks she is a hobbit, a witch, an artist, and a good cook. Living in the foothills of Colorado, Kit enjoys the giant skies and prairie landscapes which suit her need for wide open spaces. In addition to hiking through glorious scenery with her husband or imagining herself living in the Middle Ages, Kit works as a pillow for her miniature poodle and polishes the next small piece of her handmade life.

9 thoughts on “Create Your Heart Out, Then Let Destiny Decide”

  1. I agree with your friend, it is a beautiful quilt! One thing we need to remember is that the “imperfections” we see in our handmade items often times are the most cherished thing about the item to the receiver.


    1. Your point about imperfections is something I know so well. I love the wonkiness and human-touch evident in handmade items. You’d think I’d be better about allowing for it in my own work.

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  2. Lovely post! Its all too easy to notice the imperfections in our own work but others certainly don’t look at them that way, especially when they appreciate the love and care that you have put into making something.


    1. Thanks. There are judgmental people out there ready to pick things apart. (Quilt Police, for example.) I need the reminder that things don’t have to be perfect in order to be valued.

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